The predator

Who is the predator?

– He proceeds with his face masked and presents himself as “Mister Nobody”.
– In 60% of cases, the victim knows the abuser: parent, family friend, neighbour, teacher, sports instructor…
– 90 to 95% of abusers are men. There may be paedophile women but they are small (5 to 10%). These cases are rare and hard to prove. Currently, there is little information about women and paedophilia.
– He manages to built his life around children. Abusers are present in all children spheres (schools, holiday camps, sports…).
– He can be attracted only by boys or only by girls or both.
– Being paedophile does not exclude the possibility of being married, father or mother.
– There are paedophiles in all spheres of society.
– Even being young (less than 16 years old), a behaviour of sexual predator can appear.
– It is not a disease, it is a perversion and there is no treatment. It’s a particular scenario that makes him reach an orgasm.

Where is the assault taking place?

– The assaults occurs most often in places viewed as safe (family home, school, sports club…).
– It can also take place in a place away from home. In this case, the predator will choose an unknown victim. He can attract the child through all kinds of means (pretends to be sent by the child’s parents to come get him at school, ask the child to get in the car to show him the way, offer a gift to the child or threaten him).

How often, how long for the attacks?

– The sexual abuse can be punctual but, sometimes, a long-term and complex relationship between the child and the paedophile is established.
– In 40% of cases, the child is victim of repeated assaults. As, most of the time, the abuser convinces him to remain silent about their relationship, the situation can continue until adolescence.

How does the predator act?

– He is smart, knows the psychology of the child. He chooses his victim and, with extreme patience (he takes his time, he can wait until 1 year), he creates a friendship with the child.
– Step by step, he develops an engagement strategy that is, he goes more and more further: nudity, caresses, kisses, sexual acts.
– The approach strategy of the predator is comparable to hunting: tracking, isolation of the prey (by isolating the child from his group of classmates), creation of a fake friendship with the child.
– The predator is “camouflaged” in the family, he inspires adults confidence.
– The abuser develops strategies and uses adults confidence.
– Generally, the sexual assault is not physically violent. The abuser uses persuasion, threats and corruption…
– The predator is kind, considerate and attentive to the interests of the child. He has little risks of being denounced by the child if his parents are not present. Otherwise, the predator forms more affective ties with the child than he has with his parents.
– He can attack a child via his family or neighbours. Sometimes, he tries to gain the confidence of the mother or family circle.
– The abuser rarely takes action impulsively, violently and quickly.
– There is not always a sexual act.